the body language

“the most important part of communication is to hear what isn’t being said” – Peter.F.Drucker
Many a times our body is communicating even when we are not. Look at the guys tilt their heads and run their fingers through their hair. If you follow the direction of the tilt you will find their object of interest. With girls meddling with the hair would either mean interest or boredom.
When the eyes say one thing and the tongue another a practised man relies on the language of the first—Ralph Waldo Emerson
Lot of people don’t seem to realize that standing too close to a person is intruding into the person’s private space. There are definite zone pattern of personal space.
Public zone 4mts-sight extent
Social zone 1 – 4 mts.
Personal zone 60cms-1mt.
Intimate zone 0 – 60cm.
This is of course given to cultural variation when you are in a personal zone it is useful to keep 45 from the person(particularly if you want to flirt with the person) this makes the person feel less threatened. Give the person the choice to move closer. Narrowed eyes indicate that person in uncomfortable with you. The ability to communicate and connect to a person depends on your capacity to make that person valuable. Some simple signals that could help
• Scan – just gazing around take no more than 5 – 10 secs.
• Hello directed at the person who interests you this is a quick glance and look away.
• Look in once you suspect mutual interest repeated make fleeting eye contact.
• Smile.
• Flash the eyebrow for a second anything more than that will make you look Groucho Marx. Combine this with a smile and eye contact your communication is complete.
• Go over and introduce yourself with simple and direct”hi I’m so and so.”
Practising observing body language.
Initially use a notebook and write down the non verbal signals.
• Work makes people’s body language change particularly if the boss is around.
• Friends their body language particularly mirroring and how it changes when another party of mutual interest comes.
• Couples in love
• Couples in conflict.
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